Eyes Wide Shut

The concept of men are from Mars and women are from Venus first coined by John Gray in 1992, has been a broad thesis of the sexes pinning unrealistic expectations and understanding on each other since the beginning of time. No matter the religion, or ideology of a higher power being in control of our predestined lives on this spinning shere called Earth, men and women have had a warped understanding, and assanine expectations of one another, often stamping  the entire species mutually as untrustworthy. Lemme break it down in really simplistic terms, Men are PHYSICAL beings, and Women are EMOTIONAL beings, point blank, no questions about it. It's in our makeup as humans,and honestly without the diversity of us, this would be a world of angry mufukas on both sides. Take a look throughout history at any so called righteous man that walked the EARTH, and at some point in time, he made an irrational decision involving a woman, and it usually involved him trying to sleep with many women or some type of fuckery involving his concubines. Now on the flip side of things, women throughout history have taken the same irrational decision making stance, but they mainly were surrounded by her having deep emotional ties to a man and sticking by him even when she knew it wasn't for her well being. The complexity of our differences is what makes finding a soulmate, or life partner such a big deal. The 60% divorce rate in this country does not come by surprise, mainly because unrealistic expectations always leads to failure. Trying to foresee each others thoughts and actions will always be counterproductive. My great grandparents stayed together for over 60 years, not because they were superheroes or some shit, it's because they understood the concept of friendship, which was the catalyst that drew them together . That union which brought them together, never faultered with time, other people, nor circumstance. My great grandad would say, "Boy you better hold out, like you started out", which meant, If yall always went to the movies every Friday night, damnit after five years when the comfort, and the pointless "I Love You" comments die down, you better remain friends.

We may never truly understand each, and our ideals, motivations, and drive may always be miles apart from one another, but we need each other. There is not a such thing as the perfect man, or the perfect wifey, and if you have this backwards ass thinking I can damn near garauntee you a life of loneliness, and Twitter After Dark fantacies. Respect our individuality, and never brush off that approach from him/her because good people still exist amongst us. If you continue to walk around with your walls up, unapproachable, angry, and untrusting, due to someone in your past or a former relationship, you are cheating yourself from happiness and a bond everyone diserves to make it in this crazy ass world. And if your pump fake psychic ability was so keen to start with, you wouldn't be in the situation you found yourself in last time. Independence is cool, but having a partner makes things much better.